Michael_lover_of_the_arts

Why Study with Michael, as opposed to another teacher... ABOUT MICHAEL AND HIS TEACHING

2010-08-24T08:11:00.000-07:00

(Above is a picture of me and my old studio. I currently teach in another room, but the second photo conveys the colorful, arty atmosphere my students experience. The text below details the unique benefits of my teaching.)

About me, my background and experience...

I am an experienced, college educated, scholarly, flexible and patient teacher, writer, artist, composer and professional musician. As an instructor, I endeavor to be nice, fun, communicative and approachable. My undergrad degree is in music education, from Butler University, known as the "Harvard of the Midwest." I have masters work from IU and Butler in music, literature/drama and art. My teaching experience includes both private and class/group instruction in a variety of music and arts-oriented settings and subjects. It has taken place over the course of more than two decades and has included extensive work with all ages, 6-100.

What sorts of instruction do I provide?

I provide private, individual instruction in piano, voice, guitar, guitar satellite instruments (such as banjitar, mandolin and ukes), music theory, lyrics and composition/songwriting. I also offer life coaching, both by itself and as an adjunct to musical instruction (since many times personal issues, lack of motivation, organization and difficulty with goals hampers musical learning and careers). I do not offer voice or life coaching to non-adult students. These subjects are reserved for those graduated from high school. Otherwise, any of the subjects listed above are available in any combination.

What ages and ability levels do I teach?

Persons seeking instruction possess various amounts of natural musicality, musical experience, and time for practice. I teach children, adults and senior citizens and accept each student at their particular age, ability level, etc. No matter what, I provide structure, organization, and guidance. In all, I encourage daily practice, patience with the self, and the realization that learning is a process. I try to monitor progress and adjust as we go, encouraging students to "enjoy the process."

What do I specialize in?

I specialize in designing a unique, structured, personalized course of study for each student, in one or several subjects. I create curriculum which both motivates and gets the student where they want to go. I bring my lifelong experience in creating (books/music/art), performing, teaching, administrating and designing music/arts curricula for all ages to my teaching. I am good at problem solving, coming up with ideas/new approaches, setting goals, illustrating with effective metaphors, giving assignments, etc. The above is what makes my instruction different, hard to find, and valuable.

When do I teach and where?
I teach Monday through Thursday, 7:00 - 8:30 pm, and Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays, 7:00 - 8:00 pm. I teach in my studio in the Castleton area of Indianapolis, on the northside.

About us as student and teacher...

I do ask some things of my students (see my studio policies in the next entry), but also offer many things that other teachers/studios often do not. Communication is the key in all relationships, including student and teacher. I am communicating with you through this entry. If we continue effective communication, we can move you toward your goals, steadily and happily. :)

The Policies of my Studio... EIGHT ITEMS WITH WHICH STUDENTS MUST BE IN AGREEMENT

2010-08-24T08:04:00.000-07:00

(As you can see above, I'm a friendly guy! I look forward to being your new teacher!)

EIGHT POLICIES FOR MICHAEL'S STUDIO
Details, explanations and expectations for students

Dear potential students: Please read carefully through these policies. If you are in agreement, then we are a student/teacher match, and it is on to scheduling! :)

1.

How much do lessons with Michael cost?

Well, you've found the nicest, most scholarly, flexible, organized and versatile teacher in town! :) (Gotta toot my own horn just a little!) You can study several things at once in my studio if you want to, things you'd pay several teachers for, if you didn't come to me. So, already, you're getting the best value. Now, on to the bottom line. Can you afford lessons with Michael? Well, it's a tough economy right now, and I want to make it possible for persons of various budgets to have lessons.

In essence, if you are willing to work hard and follow the policies of my studio, I'm willing to be flexible with pricing. My teaching is my living, but it's also my outreach. In a perfect world, I'd like to have $18 a half hour ($72 a month) or $36 per hour ($144 a month). My sliding scale used to be $64 - $72 per month for four half hour lessons and $128 - $144 per month for four hour lessons. But I know that folks are struggling right now, so...

If you can choose an amount within that scale, great! However, if that does not fit your budget, tell me what would, and I'll consider it. Please don't be shy about telling me what your budget will allow, and please don't go to another teacher because you think you can't afford me. Our world and economy is changing. Let's work together!

I do ask that you choose the full amount, if you are able. In fact, if you are flush and can afford a bit more, I'd gratefully receive it. Whatever amount we choose, if things get tight for you financially, let me know. I'd rather renegotiate, than lose you as a student. We can adjust your monthly payment down, if need be. And, if things get better for you financially, please adjust your amount up.

I am filling my heart with trust and love, and knowing that you and I are connected as fellow humans. Your needs and my needs are met, effortlessly! :) Thank you for your patience, and please keep reading below, where you will find a bit more detail concerning studio policies.

2.
What sort of communication is expected?

Please call me if you can't come to a lesson (even if it is last minute) or you are running late. It really helps me to know what's going on! :)

How is payment to be made, and what about the first lesson/first month?

Your payment is due in advance for the month at the first lesson of each month (or dropped in the mail, if you will miss that lesson). When you arrive (for the first lesson of each month), place your check under the glass chess board on my living room coffee table, so the ceiling fan won't blow it away!

When students have their very first lesson, though, the situation is slightly different. You might be starting in middle of the month. In that case, only a portion of the month is due. When you have that first session, you can (if need be) pay for it, go away, think about things, call me in a few days, and pay the rest at your second lesson. Most students do pay for the first month at the first session (usually it's clear then that we are a good match), but I give you the above option.

4.

Am I responsible for payment if I miss? What about make-ups?

Essentially, there are not make-ups (no matter the cause and whether or not you tell me in advance). You have a monthly, in-advance bill for lessons, and you come as often as you can. Occasionally, I might call to ask if you'd like a make up. However, you should not expect one. College quality instruction, the excellent education and experience of your teacher, reasonable/flexible pricing, a course of study designed just for you, the possibility of multi-subject study, a scholarly but flexible approach... these more than compensate for payment when you miss.

5.
What is the illness policy?

If you are not 100% well (no sneezes, sniffles, coughs, whatsoever) you are to cancel your lesson. You are expected to cancel if you (or anyone coming with you) is getting sick, is sick, or is on the mend but not quite well. And, if you (or anyone coming with you) is on antibiotic, please be finished with all courses before returning to lessons, even if the doctor says you are "not contagious." Again, the advantages of lessons with me (listed above in number four) more than compensate for any missed instruction.

What if I want another lesson time or need to stop lessons?

Please don't be afraid to call me. I'm always nice! Also, if you are having practice difficulties, frustrations, etc., just talk with me. A solution is often possible. Choosing another lesson time is often possible, too. Or, if you need to stop, that's cool. Just let me know and don't leave me hanging!

Is there a contract, and what about refunds?

There is not a contract for lessons, and you may stop at any time. However, once the first lesson of the month rolls around (whether or not you show) you are obligated for that month. So, decide at the end of the previous month if you want to continue (and tell me before the first lesson of the next month) or be resigned that you owe for the new month. This is only fair to your teacher, who must keep a roof over his head if he wants to continue teaching! :)

Where do I park? When should I ring the doorbell?
Will my lesson start and end on time?

Please park on the right side of the driveway or on the street and arrive on time. If you arrive early, wait in your vehicle or on the porch. Ring the bell right at your lesson time, not before/early. I will answer. In a perfect world, I'll be ready to see you right then. Sometimes, though, I'll show you back to a nice little waiting room, where you may nap, read, practice, etc., till I am finished with my previous student (which could be 5-20 minutes later than when your lesson is scheduled).

It's hard to meet everyone's needs in so many different subjects, and always stay on the dot. When I am ready for you, I'll come get you and we'll have your lesson for its full time. So, in essence, it's a bit like the doctor's office... come on time, please, even if I sometimes run late. Think of it as having a little "you" time built in to your lesson structure. It is important that you understand this, so you don't back a date/appointment up against your lesson and then feel nervous if we're not running on time.

Phew! I know that was quite a bit to read. If you got through all of that and are in agreement, then congratulations; we are a student/teacher match! I look forward to working with you! Though there are studio rules, I think you will find that lessons with me are special and worth your efforts in reading and agreeing to policies. I try very hard to make this so, on behalf of each of my students.

-Michael :)

A YEAR OF CHANGE: PERHAPS READING ABOUT IT MIGHT BE HELPFUL TO YOU

2008-09-18T05:11:00.000-07:00

Hello Dear Friends and Viewers,

I am sorry I have been so absent. I've been rather busy and engaged with my life. Just a short note to let you know I am well, and to extend good thoughts and prayers to you for happiness, creativity, and an abundance of all good things in each of your lives.

It has been an unusual year for me. The Universe, since about last November has made it clear to me that this is a time in which I am to reformulate my life and mode of living, including the areas of finances, health, spirituality, schedule, inner peace, balance, rest... in short, in just about all ways. I have been working on all of these things, making changes and adjustments (sometimes almost daily) since last November (since the Universe won't stop making it clear that this is to occur!)

It is as though something big is going to happen in my life or in the world, and I need to be ready and in the proper "mode" when it does. It also feels as though I am getting older, and I am preparing/being prepared for the long 20 year stretch to retirement (if I ever do get to retire... lol... like many self employed people, it's difficult to save for this milestone in human life.)

The latest change includes a reduction in the number of hours spent performing and in teaching/coaching each week. I am still doing both, but the reduction will reduce stress in my life significantly. Also, my schedule is now the same each day. When I can truly stick to my schedule (it's only default mode) I get up, work, nap, recreate, create, teach/perform, have time with my "boo" and doggie, eat, and go to sleep at the same time each day. I need this consistency (as well as the flexibility of realizing the schedule is just default mode) each day.

I do feel all these changes (both those described in the paragraph above, and those which have been made as I have gone through this phase of change over the course of the last year) have been most beneficial and instructive to me as a human being, soul, artist, teacher, musician, writer, recording artist, etc... beneficial to all the aspects of me, and to me as a whole.

I tend to define myself by what I do, though I know this is not me in totality. I enjoy doing so many things which hopefully bless others. I have accepted that I have many different aspects, some of them seemingly disparate. But it seems now I am being instructed to slow down, rest, and be content with the many things I have created and done in life. I feel guided to make sure that I am peaceful, balanced and rested at all times. I am being "encouraged" to just "be."
I think just letting go, going slowly and quietly, accepting myself (and all my aspects and limitations) may be the message of this year, and its insistence that I find a more restful, balanced mode of living.

It does not matter what others think, or what the "old push push push Michael" would think.

From now on:

I go slowly and quietly at all times.

I have a great "schedule" but I rest till I am rested, create when it feels right, and open my body, mind and spirit to ever increasing peace and balance.

I make constant adjustments to my "schedule" each day, and it's ok... Its just default mode anyway. (I think I just made a little poem... I like it!... lol).

I constantly prioritize and re-prioritize on a daily, hourly, minute by minute basis, so that I am able to deal with all that "needs doing" without driving myself crazy. I use this wonderful tool, the computer, to assist me. I am so grateful that I have devised a series of "schedule files" for the day, week, etc to help me stay organized. You all should see them. They would make my super-organized father very proud. My weekly schedule is even color-coded, indicating various aspects of my life (the body, work, creating, teaching and performing, etc) so that I can see at a glance if I am in balance.

I thank the Universe for the idea of a "computer pad" and handwritten pad by my bedside, which both now help me to just jot things down when I am worried about something, or have an inspiration in the middle of the night. Jotting things down is so much better than lying awake worrying or getting up and working on something in the middle of sleep time. So sorry, muse, but balance and rest is taking priority. I was so faithful to you, dear muse, when I was younger... Now, I am older and must rest! ("I grow old, I grow old... I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled!")

I open to receive more wonderful ideas like the above "pads." This year (and every year) should be about opening to, receiving, and implementing guidance from the Universe/our Higher Self.

I do what I can do each day... and not more.

If I should die "before I wake," it's ok... I've had a good long run, did and created many things, all of which expressed myself and hopefully helped others. If I don't finish all creative projects, it's ok... Since we are all connected, just the act of working on them, the intention of doing and expressing something good, helped others and sent good energy out into the world.

I accept and integrate all aspects of me, disparate as they might seem to the world. I am glad I am multi-faceted. So many Michaels. This is good.

My life must fit me, if I am to be at peace, healthy, happy, creative, productive, etc. (And I must be these things... we all must if we are not to be in a state of dis-ease). I am blessed and happy.

I continue to believe that I can manifest abundantly whatever good, loving thing I can dream of. Thank you, God (who according to my current understanding is in all things and IS all things!... No separation... God in the grass, my brother and sister... It's all God... all one big God...There is ONLY love or the absence of love).

I choose love and light.

I choose and choose again every day, every minute.

I send love and light to each of you. As Garrison Keillor would say, "Be happy, do good work, and keep in touch."

-Michael :)

A LETTER TO MY STUDENTS

2008-05-04T09:36:00.000-07:00

Dear Readers,

I just composed a "letter to my students" for use in the packet I give to my students when they begin lessons with me. This packet now contains this new letter, plus policies, and a schedule of times we will have lessons (and won't). Thought my blog readers might like to see the letter, since it contains info about me and about my teaching. I think it has some good advice for all students and an interesting outlook for teachers to consider as well.

Hope you all are well and happy.

Michael

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A LETTER TO MY STUDENTS
from Michael D. Purvis, BME

Dear Students,

This letter is written in an attempt to tell you a little about myself, since I am your new teacher. In addition, it will give you a good idea about what the possibilities are for you in regards to instruction here in my studio. Finally, it addresses how you might make the most of your learning experience.

About me, your teacher:

My education and related experience…
My education includes a Bachelor of Music Education from Butler University and masters work from Butler and IU in literature, art and music. During the course of my career, I have taught music in public school and private study settings, performed extensively as a professional musician, lectured on music and the arts for activity professional certification courses and The Indiana Alzheimer’s Association, and created arts programming for the elderly in all elder settings. I have, as well, administrated and designed curricula for a children’s theatre, implemented a major Eli Lilly grant involving children and theatre, worked with children with special needs for Very Special Arts, produced, written and directed an educational television show for cable TV, directed various children’s and adult choirs, and acted and music-directed for community theatre.

My creative life…
Since my college graduation, over 20 years ago, I have taught many students, ages 6 – 100, in a variety of subjects in music and the arts. I have, as well, performed over 6,000 professional musical performances for elders living in various settings. Finally, I’ve written (and often illustrated) many books for children, youths, young adults, adults and senior citizens in various genres, including: fiction, poetry, self-help, and home-study instruction. In many instances, I’ve created audio and video versions of my writings. To see these offerings, visit my websites: Music-Outreach.com, Abundantchange.com, and PlaySingNDream.com.

About my studio and specifics about my teaching:

About my studio…
When one enters my home and studio, it is evident that I love to do many things. There are traces of my loves wherever one looks: on the walls and floor, in every nook and cranny. In my home and studio, I currently teach, write, paint, craft, illustrate, make recordings and films, publish my creations, and create web-sites. Somehow, I manage to do all of this in limited space. If you have to step over an easle, computer, loom, or microphone to get to the piano bench, I do apologize in advance. (I try my best to keep it all organized and artfully arranged as possible, but it is a bit cramped. Hopefully, all that aside, it’s an inspiring place for you to receive instruction!)

Specifics about my teaching…
I instruct students in guitar, piano, voice, music composition, and music theory. I also incorporate life coaching, when appropriate. I enjoy sharing expertise and helping others to gain knowledge and fulfillment. I sometimes teach just one thing to a given student. Often, to meet a student’s goals, I craft a course of study which includes several things. I utilize my background, experience, and education (which includes teaching, literature, music, art and drama) to create a special individualized curriculum for each of my students. In short, I help persons of various ages get where they want to go… personally, creatively and professionally.

What sort of students come to my studio, and what do they hope to learn?...
If they are very young, my students come to me to begin their experience with the arts. If they are a young adult, they are often trying to sharpen their skills and break into a career in the arts where they will be performing on the stage, performing music, writing, or composing. (Sometimes it’s all of these!) If someone comes to me in middle or old age, it is often because they are on a sort of personal quest to express or fulfill themselves. They have reached a certain age and find that something is “missing.” Studying an instrument or the voice is often just the ticket to help them find that sense of personal fulfillment or expression they feel they are lacking.

How can you make the most of your learning experience?...

Whatever your reason for entering my studio, I welcome you…
Together, we will work hard to help you achieve your dream. Remember, though… it’s a process. You came here with a goal… but enjoy the process. While you are in the midst of your process, you are already doing what you came here to do! It’s not, “Gosh, when will I ever learn to play guitar/piano/sing as well as I had hoped?!?” Instead, it’s, “Hooray! I’m doing what I came here to do! I’m enjoying this!”

Work steadily, daily, in the organized structure I provide…
But also help me adjust that structure and your assignments (if needed) by communicating often about your progress, feelings, disappointments, and successes. If there is special music or a special assignment that you want to incorporate into your practice, let’s find it together. That way you will have special material which motivates you. This can be key in helping you to enjoy your study and keep up your momentum.

Finally, remember that daily practice is the key to success…
Make practice a part of your daily life, even if some days you can only do a few minutes. Just as lunch, sleep, and teeth brushing are a part of your routine, so is practice! Daily practice, as opposed to intermittent practice, will help you to experience what I call “the music fairies.” If you practice each day, while you sleep at night, the music fairies will come and wave a magic wand over you. (This sounds goofy, but hear me out.) Then, when you practice the next day, all of a sudden that thing you have been struggling with will be magically better! (It’s sort of like the tooth fairy, only better!).

If you practice daily, your progress and your joy will be increased…
Remember, “Slow and steady wins the race.” So get as close to daily practice as you can. Doing something every day is preferable to a marathon practice just before your lesson (although, FYI, the marathon is better than no practice at all! )

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Ok, that’s enough for now… Please take a look at the policies and schedule attached. I look forward to working with you.

Sincerely,
Michael :)

Introduction, Contents, Slideshows by Michael

2007-12-06T04:05:00.000-08:00

Welcome, Dear Viewer! :)

In this first blog entry...
there are slideshows of my art and photographs for you to enjoy.

In the second entry...
there are videos of me playing and singing music for you.

In the third entry...
you will find audio recordings of my original music, written, orchestrated and performed by myself (except for the last piece, which was spontaneously composed by myself and my friend Ani Ahava, and is performed by both of us.)

Below that, in the fourth entry...
you will find my updated, latest blog entry with insights, musings, and many links to my pages and creations (in book, CD, and video formats).

So glad you stopped by. Please add me to your favorites and visit often!

Sincerely,
Michael :)

Music Videos By Michael

2007-12-06T03:53:00.001-08:00

Original Music Written and Performed by Michael

2007-12-06T01:15:00.000-08:00

Insights, Musings, Instruction, Links by Michael

2007-12-05T22:38:00.000-08:00

Daily Insights (10/26) +Audio Blog, Original Music, Poem, Art, Pic, and Instructional Video...

from Lifecoach, Teacher of Instrumental and Vocal Music, Author and Artist, Michael D. Purvis

Welcome Viewers!

As always, first I list for you where you may find me on the web, then it is on to the newest blog entry. Enjoy...

Michael :)

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WHERE YOU MAY FIND ME, MICHAEL, ON THE WEB:

It is my goal to be helpful to you

in many ways, dear viewer! :)

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MY NEW AUDIO BLOG

MY TEXT AND AUDIO BLOGS

http://audio.xanga.com/michael_lover_of_the_arts

MY XANGA BLOG:
http://www.xanga.com/michael_lover_of_the_arts/

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A HUGE, ILLUSTRATED ANTHOLOGY
OF MY STORIES:
"The Abundant Storybook"
(For Children, Youths, Young Adults,
Adults, Couples and Senior Citizens)

http://www.abundantchange.com/products.html?target=abundant_storybook.html

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MY "LITLE BOOK OF WISDOM"
(Truly practical advice on living life peacefully and well!)

http://www.abundantchange.com/products.html?target=wisdom.html

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CDS OF MY ORIGINAL MUSIC:

(Which I am currently drawing upon for my Audio Blog)

http://www.abundantchange.com/products.html?target=ixmusic.html

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MY WEBSITES:

ABUNDANTCHANGE.COM

Uplift/Enjoyment for all ages

in book, cd, cassette and video formats

by Michael

http://www.Abundantchange.com

PLAYSINGNDREAM.COM:

Homestudy in piano, voice, guitar, art/craft, life coaching

http://www.PlaySingNDream.com

MUSIC-OUTREACH.COM

For senior citizens and oldies music lovers

http://www.Music-Outreach.com

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NEWEST AUDIO BLOG,

POEM AND TEXT BLOG ENTRY

Insights, Expression,

Counsel and Instruction

from Michael

HELLO DEAR VIEWER,

MY NEWEST AUDIO BLOG ENTRY:

Here is the latest recording I have posted for you:

I have posted an audio blog on my Xanga site.It’s a track from my CD "Within" which is entitled, "Blessed are You who Irritate Us" which speaks to the idea that though relationships can be frustrating, they are one of the primary ways we learn and grow.

Enjoy....

Here is the link to my audio blog where you will find
"Blessed are You who Irritate Us":
http://audio.xanga.com/michael_lover_of_the_arts

Here is the link to the page on my website
where you will find my "Within" CD:
http://www.abundantchange.com/products.html?target=ixmusic.html

Here are the lyrics to
"Blessed are You who Irritate Us":

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BLESSED ARE YOU WHO IRRITATE US

Verse 1:

Blessed are you who irritate us.

Blessed are you who hate and debate us.

In holy relationship we learn and grow,

And holy relationships reap what they sow.

Chorus:

In you, we see ourselves,

You force us to grow-

That’s why we’re so mad at you!

You hold up the mirror and we see ourselves,

And all of those things that we fear,

Those things that we fear!

Verse 2:

In holy relationships we all take turns.

It might feel uncomfortable, but that’s how we learn-

You are our teachers, oh don’t you know;

You make us so angry, but oh please don’t go!

Repeat Chorus:

In you, we see ourselves,

You force us to grow-

That’s why we’re so mad at you!

You hold up the mirror and we see ourselves,

And all of those things that we fear,

Those things that we fear!

Lyrics, music and orchestrations by Michael D. Purvis

Vocals sung and all instruments played by Michael D. Purvis

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A POEM BY MICHAEL FOR YOU

Some poetic expression

Here is the link to the page on my website where you will find books of my poetry:

http://www.abundantchange.com/products.html?target=ixpoetry.html

Here is the link to an audio file of me reading the poem:

http://www.abundantchange.com/music/harpq1.html

Here is my poem "On Change":

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On Change

"How true the old saying,

'Yield and you need not break'!

How completely it comes home!"

-Lao Tzu

Once,

I heard someone observe

that human beings are by nature uncomfortable with life,

that we are not at ease with our journey.

My father used to say,

"Life bloodies us,"

and then quote the poet:

"Life ain't no crystal stair', son."

Today,

thumbing through yellowed pages,

I found Lao Tzu's ancient words,

And found them full of wisdom:

"Yield and you need not break:

Bent you can straighten,

Empty you can mend; …"

I thought then of Jesus,

sitting on a hillside long ago

with his flock, his lambs,

saying-

"Consider the lilies of the field…"

Fathers, poets, philosophers and God's Son-

All with wisdom for God's children.

Change?

We must.

Worry?

We are bound to, at least a little-

But we try to follow the advice of sages, of God:

Bend, yield,

search for Divinity and heal…

We must ever remain a green twig,

Green inside, no matter our age in years

(time being an illusion, I suspect more and more).

We must be molded and shaped,

By God, by fate-

It is bend or break.

And if we break, for lack of bending,

having become rigid, dry, unbending-

we must heal, take time to become green again inside.

Change is our lot.

And when we join in our bending with others and with God,

in a dance of green twigs,

intertwining, weaving our lives together, our spirits-

we make beautiful baskets!

baskets in which others, wearied and broken, are carried,

baskets in which gifts are given,

baskets which are both gift and giver.

We carry others that they might rest, and be healed-

and sometimes

we too are carried.

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MY NEWEST TEXT BLOG ENTRY:

On "When others do not live up to our expectations:"

I thought the quote I list below was really good. I sent it to my partner and to a friend recently. See the link to the website from which it comes below the quote. This kind of goes along with my song "Blessed are you who Irritate Us" (see my audio blog above).

If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right -- for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.

http://www.keirsey.com/

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